Happy 2020.

Have you made goals or resolutions? Ones that make your heart sing? Or ones that you think you “should” do, not out of any great love, but because of other people’s or society’s expectations?

2020 will be the final symmetrical year we’ll see in our lifetime. For yourself, make it count. Let’s make 2020 a year we’ll remember with clarity. A time we drew outside the lines, practiced bravery and self-acceptance, and pushed ourselves to go beyond limitations.

What’s holding you back? Is it insurmountable, or does it just seem that way?

What ignites the fire in your gut? Are you going to stoke the flames, fan them out, or allow them to slowly fade?

This life is so precious. Who will be there to high-five us on our deathbeds for sacrificing our deepest desires?

And maybe by sacrificing your deepest desires, you’re robbing the rest of us of your brilliant and beautiful light.

It’s a light I’d like to see.


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  1. Mahyar

    Inspiring as usual! This year we want to move from Stockholm to Toronto to be closer to our family in Boston while not getting involved with too much capitalism! It takes a lot of risk and energy to migrate. I have done it once but I am 36 now not 25 anymore and I have a daughter. Just thinking about it makes me nervous. I am doubtful about the move but I don’t want to stay either. I wish you the best symmetrical year my inspiring friend! cheers

    1. Allysia

      That’s a huge move! If it’s anything, I absolutely loved living in Toronto – it’s a wonderful city and I miss it dearly. I understand how difficult it is to do these things in your thirties with children, as I’m there myself. The big question, of course, is if the idea of moving lights you up. Children are adaptable, and the chaos of a move will eventually make way for (ideally) greater well-being. Good luck to you. 🙂

  2. Ian Robbins

    These are thought-provoking questions, so I’m sure you’ll forgive me for really thinking about them, and considering an alternate point of view.

    If anyone were to be there, at the deathbed, to give high-fives for sacrificing for others, surely that person would have to be one’s own self. Sacrificing for others is really what’s important, according to most of the world’s ethical institutions. This idea of blaming ourselves for not making and achieving self-oriented goals actually works against happiness, both individually and socially. Here’s a link to a short video on the bbc website of someone who argues the point better than I: https://www.bbc.com/reel/video/p07c6sb6/how-positive-thinking-is-harming-your-happiness.

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